I feel it is very American to take blame and put it on yourself. To hold yourself accountable for EVERYTHING. It goes along with the American dream, if you work hard enough, no matter who you are or where you came from, you will succeed. Being an American I can’t say I don’t believe this. Even if Malcolm Gladwell cleverly pointed out all the reasons why people really are successful (and it is not just hard work) I still buy it. I know people who are living proof of it, happy or unhappy. Yet the downside of this is in all those that did in fact work hard but were not successful, and therefore blamed themselves. Disappointment is one thing, but blaming yourself for it is another. Especially if it is not your fault. There are so many things that are out of our control. Was it really my decision to go to college? You can be a smart aleck and tell me it’s a free country but if you were in my shoes no, it was not my decision. That’s not to say I didn’t want to attend an institution of higher learning, only that the imperative to go stemmed from societal and familial pressures. So do you blame yourself for anything? I blame myself for so many things. But I don’t know what is reasonable and what’s not. Where I made the right decision and where I made the wrong one. Because you can do anything if you try hard enough, right?